Myth of the White Wedding Dress

Myth: For thousands of years the white wedding dress has symbolized the biological virginity or “sexual purity” of the bride.

Fact: White was not a popular color for wedding dresses until Queen Victoria married Albert of Saxe-Coburg in 1840...less than 200 years ago.

Although other notable historical brides, such as Phillipa of England had wore white on their wedding day, it just was not a popular color until Queen Victoria set the standard in 1840. Until then brides of western culture generally did not wear white. Victoria broke the tradition for Royalty in her times which was to wear a royal silver wedding dress. here

-The Scott

Seeing Thru The Haze – Carrie Prejean's Sex Tape

People who depend on Network Television as a way to be informed about current issues are often just completely misinformed. Network Television depends on keeping it's audience dazzled and captivated so they will sit through a commercial break. Television debates over hot-button issues are often going to focus more on controversial talking points over and above the talking points that are actually relevant to that debate. I'm providing a more sensible point-of-view on these types of issues in a series of blog articles entitled, “Seeing Thru the Haze”.

My mashup spoof of the Carrie Prejean Sex Tape.

Carrie Prejean is the subject of controversy yet again. She has released a new book titled “Still Standing” and someone has “inconveniently” released what is called a sex tape of her as well. It's been months since Carrie Prejean's controversy with Perez Hilton regarding same-sex marriage. My question is why is this tape coming out now? The sex tape doesn't really discredit her with people who would buy her book. Those kind of people supported, and still support Sarah Palin without compelling reasons.

In my observation Sarah Palin support derives more from sympathy for some rather ridiculous and over-the-top attacks from the left, not any “virtues” Sarah Palin actually has. Likewise, many will be interested in Carrie Prejean's book merely out of sympathy for what appears to be a smear campaign. The question remains though, who released the tape? And why release it now? If her ex-boyfriend is to blame, surely it would have been a lot more lucrative for him to float the tape during the Carrie Prejean pageant controversy several months ago. To figure who put this tape out we should look for those who meet the following criteria.

• Actually had access to the sex recording.
• Benefits by “discovering” the sex tape at the time Carrie Prejean's book hits the stands.
• Would not have benefited by releasing the tape during the original pageant controversy.

These criteria point to Carrie Prejean herself as well as Donald Trump and the Miss USA pageant. During an interview with the Today Show here her face still seems to light-up when she speaks about Donald Trump...but keep in mind she was going to sue his organization for religious discrimination. Do people have even remotely fond feelings about someone who they believe discriminated against them for race or religion? It's Donald Trump, the Miss USA pageant, and Carrie Prejean who all benefit from the public controversy of this sex tape. The sad part is, according to Carrie Prejean she made this recording when she was 17 years-old. That means the sex tape recording could technically qualify as “child porn”.

I hate to think anyone would use borderline “child porn” just to peddle a book or a pageant; and I'm not accusing Carrie Prejean or Donald Trump of doing that...but I do have my suspicions that not everything in this story is what meets the eye. I doubt Carrie Prejean has the intellectual resources to conceive and execute this kind of media intrigue. Donald Trump should come clean about what is really going on here...or at least have the good sense to shut this crap down.

-The Scott

Why I “Did It Anyway” -- One Year Later

No, I'm not talking about premarital sex, I did that one way way back. I'm talking about why I created this blog, a YouTube Channel, and a website to challenge the one-sided theological opinions of the 'Christian' Right regarding their so-called “Sexual Purity” issues. I've operated this blog for about a year now, so I thought I would give my regular readers an update.

It's not for the money.
In the last year donations to Not Another Generation totaled $50, all from one person. This is the sum total of all receipts, including my failed attempt at affiliate marketing for a few books and software products. While donations do help and I appreciate them no matter how small, I don't want to turn the Not Another Generation message in to some kind of money grubbing religious guilt-machine. That type of thing really annoys me. I'm usually ecstatic when someone new just links to my website or blog from theirs...even if they disagree.

It's not for the fame.
Although I think the Not Another Generation message is interesting and provocative; let's face it, my view counts on YouTube ain't that impressive. Most people, including most church going Christians simply do not care if premarital sex is a sin in the Bible. It's not that they agree with me, they simply do not care one way or the other. Those of you who strongly disagree with me should wake up and realize you are in a minority of people even within your own church. Sure, many other members will act like they agree with your message against 'fornication', the simple fact is most of them are “nodding you off” because you're just too damn annoying about that issue. The majority of those who do care about the “Sexual Purity” issues do not want to hear anything different than what they always hear. This is why they only listen to 'Christian' radio, watch 'Christian' Television, read 'Christian' magazines, and shop at 'Christian' Bookstores.

It's not because I disrespect those who choose Abstinence Until Marriage.
I believe I offer some of the best and most respectful real-word advice for Christians who choose Abstinence Until Marriage here. It's actually one of my most popular blog articles. I have more respect for those who live that message than most ministry leaders who preach it. In the real world of Abstinence Until Marriage I've heard ministry leaders preach that crap against 'fornication' then turn around and crack jokes about 30 and 40 year-old virgins in their own congregation. No matter what side you're on that is upsetting behavior. I also provide a message of Abstinence Until Adulthood as well as good personal boundaries for unmarried Christians.

It's not because I'm selfish.
When I reached my conclusions that premarital sex is not actually a sin in the Bible, my first reaction was “I just better keep my opinion to myself”. I realized that holding my tongue, keeping my opinions to myself would in fact be the most selfish action I could take. Saying different would cost me dearly. I would loose friends, I might be threatened by zealots, and I would no longer be welcome at almost any type of church I'm used to. All those things have happened. Fortunately the threats have been rather cowardly, anonymous, and veiled...so far.

Simply, I believe God has called me to give the Not Another Generation message.
More Christians should publicly challenge the Abstinence Until Marriage dogma because it is putting Christian youth at statistically GREATER risk to STDs and unplanned pregnancy than unchurched youth. You might not see that at your church...but most don't notice the statistical probability that one or more of the young ladies at their church visited an abortion clinic either. Further, most of us don't get married until our late 20's now. According to the former President of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary; expecting virginity at that age is unreasonable, yet that is still the message publicly given. The only statistical impact the Abstinence Until Marriage message has is a reduction in the use of condoms and other preventative contraception. Premarital Sex is one of few issues where many Christians actually believe “Ignorance is the Answer”. Ignorance coupled with a message that a condom is a “provision for sin” is putting Christian youth at grave risk to life threatening STDs and unplanned pregnancy.

I agree with ministry leaders who want to challenge the youth to delay sexual activity...but that challenge MUST be realistic. Preaching Abstinence Until Marriage today is tantamount to telling the youth you expect them to be a 30 year-old virgin one day. Do you REALLY expect they will live it? If you don't then why would you leave them uninformed, unprotected, and ashamed?

-The Scott

Ignoramuses and Hypocrites – R. Albert Mohler Jr.

Have you noticed that the 'Christian' Right doesn't bring out a 40 year-old virgin to give you a thrilling testimony about never having sex? It's not because people don't get there, it's because those who do don't have a winning testimony. In my experience, church leaders who preach the "sexual purity" message will crack jokes about real-life 30 and 40 year-old virgins within their congregation. When it comes to the so-called "sexual purity" message pushed by the 'Christian' Right it seems the major voices fall in to two categories. Ignoramuses and Hypocrites.


R. Albert Mohler Jr. is the president of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. I'm not accusing him of any kind of hypocrisy with his personal sexual ethics, but of misrepresenting his intentions regarding his one-sided theological opinions. In a recent blog article Mr. Mohler chided retired Episcopal Bishop John Shelby Spong who pledges never again to debate the issues of homosexuality or homosexual rights.

Bishop Spong is a pro-Gay rights advocate, Mohler is not. I'm not a fan of the theologies either of these men use but what incensed me is the comment Al Mohler made about Bishop Spong,

“He is no longer even willing to admit that there are two sides to the debate.”
-R Albert Mohler Jr. here

Yet the irony is that it's Al Mohler and other 'Christian' Right leaders who lock-arms and refuse to discuss these “Sexual Purity” issues in a two-sided fashion. I wrote R. Albert Mohler Jr. not long ago to see if he would be willing to have a two-sided conversation about the issues I discuss on his radio program. I didn't have any reasonable expectation that Al Mohler would be willing to, but I felt obligated to at least try. As I expected, I received no response.

If Al Mohler believes these issues are a two-sided conversation, then he should give his audience the benefit of a TWO-sided conversation; but it seems BOTH Bishop Spong and R. Albert Mohler Jr are fresh out of conversation.

-The Scott

Ignoramuses and Hypocrites – The Bod Squad Petition

Have you noticed that the 'Christian' Right doesn't bring out a 40 year-old virgin to give you a thrilling testimony about never having sex? It's not because people don't get there, it's because those who do don't have a winning testimony. In my experience, church leaders who preach the "sexual purity" message will crack jokes about real-life 30 and 40 year-old virgins within their congregation. When it comes to the so-called "sexual purity" message pushed by the 'Christian' Right it seems the major voices fall in to two categories. Ignoramuses and Hypocrites.

I've already called Dannah Gresh out as both an Ignoramus and a Hypocrite here. Dannah Gresh wants moms to help her petition the fashion industry to provide more age appropriate clothing for Christian teen girls. I don't bother with church anymore, but when I used to go I also noticed that Christian teen girls are often very inappropriately dressed. Dannah Greesh thinks the teen fashion industry is the problem and that a petition will set them straight. here

Good grief. This makes me want to scream “GET THE LOG OUT OF YOUR OWN EYE!” Christian teen girls are often handed a great deal of duality about their sexuality even at church. On one hand they are told an awful lot about modesty, “Sexual Purity” and pressured in to virginity promises; and when all is said and done they are then given completely contrary roll models. One such example is Carie Prejean.

Carrie Prejean was Miss California USA and created a great deal of controversy when she made statements against Gay and Lesbian marriage. She was eventually fired by Donald Trump for not fulfilling her contractual obligations. I suspect this stems from the controversy surrounding her anti-gay statements though. 'Christian' Right political organizations like to float Carrie Prejean as an example and spokesperson for their 'family' values. She was a speaker at the “Value Voters Summit 2009” along side people such as Phyllis Schlafly and Bill Bennett here. Let's take a look at the 'Christian' Right “sexual purity” dress code according to Carrie Prejean.

'Christian' Right Topless Spokesmodel Carrie Prejean.

Teens and Parents pay attention: Even though I'm critical of Carrie Prejean, her politics, and her church; I want to congratulate her that she dresses appopriately when she's at church. She doesn't have to prove she is beautiful to anyone...and neither do you!

Dannah Gresh has a point that Christian teen girls are over-sexualized and many need to dress more modestly. I disagree with her that it's an issue of "age appropriateness" of clothing. It's an issue of modesty at any age. When big girls start to become young ladies they want to look attractive and sophisticated. That is a completely normal and healthy transition in life. I would challenge her and Christian moms to train young ladies in the appropriate use of fashion...not the lack there of. Dannah Gresh would be better off working with fashion producers to help with this, not irritating them with a petition that will go nowhere. If a petition is in order perhaps Dannah Gresh should petition people such as Carrie Prejean, her church The Rock San Diego, or The Values Voter Summit who may actually hear her message; rather than fashion producers who primarily serve the whims of a marketplace that has been created.

-The Scott

The Evolution of 'Biblical' Purity

One of my claims is that marketplace pressure from Conservative, Fundamentalist, and Evangelical groups has been driving translations of the Bible to become increasingly puritanical. One piece of evidence I offer for that is puritanical outrage which occurred when the Revised Standard Version translators chose the words “young woman” instead of “virgin” in Isaiah 7:14. If you want to know more about that, then watch my video titled “Revised Standard Virgin”. Here

Another case I offer is the ongoing evolution of 1 Corinthians 7:36. The literal order of words in this verse, both in the original Greek and also in the King James Version put sexual activity before marriage and it is declared to not be a sin. When you realize the implications of the literal order of words of 1 Corinthians 7:36 it is hilarious to see how various modern translators attempt to deal with it. Let's take a look at the evolution of this verse within some Bible translations.

The Evolution of 1 Corinthians 7:36.

1611 King James Version - KJV
Notice the word for marriage is used only once, and it is the last word of this verse.

But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of [her] age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

1973 New International Version - NIV
Notice the word for marriage is now used twice and the concept of engagement is used as well.

If anyone thinks he is acting improperly toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if she is getting along in years and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married.

1996 New Living Translation - NLT
Like the NIV, marriage is used twice and engagement is used as well

But if a man thinks he ought to marry his fiancée because he has trouble controlling his passions and time is passing, it is all right; it is not a sin. Let them marry.

2002 Today's New International Version - TNIV
Notice marriage is used 3 times and includes the concept of engagement. To my knowledge this is the world record for marriage reference in 1 Corinthians 7:36.

If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if she is getting beyond the usual age for marrying [a] and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married.

Bible translations do seem to be getting increasingly puritanical, at least depending on who the intended marketplace is. There is talk of yet-another revision of the NIV for those within Evangelical groups which use it. I wonder if the translators will set a new record on how many times they can squeeze words for marriage in to 1 Corinthians 7:36. Just remember, the Greek word for marriage is only used once, and it is the LAST word of this verse.

-The Scott

Fake Your Virginity Kit

The great equalizer between boys and girls is here and it's afford ably priced at $30. It is a Chinese manufactured device which brings the concept of “faking it” in to a whole new universe. Ostensibly manufactured as a sex-toy this $30 devise allows a woman of any age and sexual experience to fake her virginity. Personally I think it would be a hilarious gag for a single-mom with her new boyfriend however not everyone sees it that way. Egyptian officials are refusing to take premarital sex lying down and are calling for a ban of this device and punishments for those who attempt to import it. here

No more worry about losing your virginity. With this product, you can have your first night back anytime. Insert this artificial hymen into your vagina carefully. It will expand a little and make you feel tight. When your lover penetrate, it will ooze out a liquid that look like blood not too much but just the right amount. Add in a few moans and groans, you will pass through undetectable. Its easy to use, clinically proven non-toxic to human and has no side effects, no pain to use and no allergic reaction. -Gigimo.com

-The Scott